Small steps. Honest reflection. Real growth.
Hi there! My name is Amaka. I’m a sensitive soul who deeply values relationships. I love peace and calm—think: reading a good book on a quiet beach. I enjoy learning new things and solving technical or analytical problems. I’m also a certified over-thinker (working on the recovery part!). I’m so glad my dear friend Ekeoma invited me to contribute to this space.
Every year, I write down goals. And every year, many of them remain unchecked by December.
At the start of this year, I decided to shift my focus—to prioritize growth. I identified a few key areas of my life where I wanted to grow, and now, entering the second quarter of the year, I’ve been reflecting:
What has worked? What hasn’t? And what do I still need to begin?
My Approach (So Far)
As a recovering over-thinker, I knew I had to break things down into manageable pieces. Here’s what I’ve tried:
1. Set clear, measurable goals.
This came naturally to me—I’m the queen of planning! One example: I committed to investing $XX every month. Simple and measurable.
2. Set up my environment for success.
I tried to remove temptations, like unhealthy snacks from the house. I say tried because, well… the best-laid plans don’t always pan out.
3. Create accountability systems.
I tracked food and exercise using apps. Helpful, but not nearly as powerful as having an actual person check in and challenge me.
4. Minimize friction.
I automated what I could—like setting up a direct deposit to my investment account—so that growth didn’t rely on daily willpower.
5. Stay consistent.
This has been the hardest part, especially when it comes to becoming a healthier version of myself.
What I’ve Learned
I’ve made solid progress in external areas like finances and personal development through learning. But when it comes to changing long-standing habits, it’s been more of a struggle.
One thing I’d like to fully commit to is the 75 Soft program. Truthfully? I’ve restarted every Monday since I said I’d begin. But I’m determined to refine my approach and give myself a real shot at success.
Let’s Grow Together
Is there something you’ve been trying to commit to—but keep getting stuck? Let’s keep each other accountable.
Drop a comment below—I’d love to hear what you’re working on and how we can support each other.
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